I was over at my friends CopMama and I saw this great meme she does. She has a prompt for this week that I just couldn’t stop thinking about “Tell us about a time you did something absent minded as a Mom!”
My thoughts immediately went to: When haven’t I done something absent minded as a parent.
Isn’t that awful that was the thought that went through my head? I think it is but let’s be practical it happens all the time. Let’s be truthful too. It happens to me. It happens to my friends. It happens to you most likely. I don’t want no pointing fingers that it doesn’t. I’m assuming. OK I know the saying that goes with assuming so if I’m wrong then I’m an cow’s butt.
Seriously think about this:
You are working hard on your bills. Trying to get them all done. Trying to squeeze that last dollar out to pay this or that. Getting frustrated because that last dollar is just not going to come out no matter what you do. And this conversation happens:
Pumpkin: “Mommy?”
Me: “Go talk to your dad”
Pumpkin: “Mommy, Monkeyboy hit me.”
Me: “Pumpkin,I’m busy go talk to your dad.”
Pumpkin: “MOMMY MONKEYBOY HIT ME!”
At this point,you are frustrated not thinking about it all. Wanting to pay that bill and the nagging child is NOT helping.
Me: “Go play!”
Next thing you hear is Monkeyboy screaming as he comes down the stairs.
Monkeyboy: “Mommy, Pumpkin just hit me.”
Me: “Go tell Daddy”
Monkeyboy: “Can I hit her back”
Me: “Leave me alone! Go play.”
Did I intentionally tell them to hurt each other? No I didn’t. Was I even really concentrating on them while I was paying the bills and my absented minded husband was watching tv? No probably not. Did them hurting each other (though not bad) result from this? Yes I’m sure it did. Will it happen again? Yes I’m sorry to say I’m sure it will. Did I mention that I’m human? Well I am.
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Oh great,I thought that behavior was just temporary because mine are 1 and 3! You mean is doesn’t stop???
Thanks for linking up today and the tweets!
My kids are in this phase too –and you know,they’ll hit each other whether I up and do something about it or not. Do I sound cynical? No,just sleep-deprived,absent-minded and it all coming out wrong! Happy hitting-free day! Louise.
I do the same thing! Funny how they never go to daddy first when they need to tattle. My new response when dad’s home and the come to me to try to tell on some is “You have a dad too.”I make him take his turn too.
I hate when they hit each other as usually it happens because the other one was doing something they shouldn’t have to start it…so I often say,well don’t hit back and work it out
Good parenting I know.
I totally hear you! Trying not to have mama guilt is very hard. You are right,we are human and we do the best we can.:0)
It is wonderful that we as mom’s have a forum that celebrates honesty in parenting. I totally can relate!!!
I have found the National Center For Biblical Parenting quite helpful!
Blessings.
Sounds pretty thought provoking to me. Seriously,this happens all the time. They run pass Daddy to get to me.
I tell them to leave a message after the beeeeeeeeeeeeep.
I go off duty after a certain hour.
COME AGAIN TOMORROW!
psst….you are one of the featured friends today over on my blog!
Yes,I can definitely relate to all that!
Annette
http://www.mammakerr.com
It’s always nice to uncover a new blog this excellent. I’ll be back here for certain.
Hi found u by way of cop mama –am now following u.
joining in this on my blog too[next week].