One of the hardest things that an infertile mommy waits for is the word “mommy”. We watch our friends and family get pregnant at the drop of a pin. We go to baby showers wishing that we didn’t have to. We hear people ask constantly,“when will you be having yours?”or “It will happen.”Those questions hurt us.
Some of us go through the most embarrassing experiences of our lives. Really think about it. Who wants someone inspecting their eggs or their husband’s sperm? Who wants someone to know if your sperm count is down? Or if it is your fault that you can’t have children? It’s unbearable to think that because of you,your spouse may not enjoy that special moment as well.
I almost did not marry my husband for that reason. He told me that we could adopt. I have to tell you that you think that is like flying to mars. You won’t meet up to the states requirements. You could have a perfect record in everything (financial and career-wise). So why risk a relationship that is doomed to fail because your spouse will eventually want a child? It might not. You could be very happy together thats true. But it could in today’s world of speedy divorce.
I was so fortunate to be blessed with my daughter and son. I was so lucky to be able to adopt them.
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Congratulations! Children are wonderful. I’ve always thought adoption was a very special thing –after all,most children are born,but adopted children are CHOSEN.
I do think that having a children is a blessing and it doesn’t matter how you got them
Thank you for sharing your heart on the matter. I hope others get to see and try to understand how to be more tactful with questions that can be painful to face.
You two are so lucky to have found each other. Congrats that ya’ll were also able to adopt!!!:0)
Such a Beautiful post
God Bless your Family
How is it possible that I did not know this. Maybe because there was no reason to assume anything other than exactly what those kiddo’s are…..yours yours yours. Congratulations,your kids will always know how loved they are because you personally picked them to be yours.
I’ve seen children who don’t have parents to care for them. They are many. Thank you for opening up your heart to children who may not be your flesh and blood,but like your blog title,have your heart!
Do you plan to keep this site updated? I sure hope so… its great!
Infertility Sux!!! It’s as simple as that.
Congratulations on your children.
LOVE. It’s all that’s required to make a family. You are blessed. Thanks for sharing!
It was nice to read your story and it warmed my heart.
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Joan Penfold
Oh! My heart hurts. I am so glad that you found your family. I am afraid if ours hadn’t come via biology,I would never qualified to adopt. I am soooo far from perfect. Thank you for sharing part of your journey!
Traci
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I hope to adopt.
Hi
I love ur post….congratulations. That is AWESOME!!
I met you from Follow Fridays…
I never knew how hard it was to adopt until I got older,I always thought you just apply and they hand over a kid.
My husband comes from a huge family and I come from a small and non family type of family. I almost didn’t marry my husband because I had no intention of having kids and I knew he’d want kids. Not because I can’t but because I just don’t want to. I guess being raised in a non family type of family can do that.
And now that I’m older,it kind of bothers me because my best friend is unable to have kids and she didn’t find out until about 5 months ago. I don’t know where I’m going with this…but I just felt like saying something.
Congrats on your family
As a birth mom who went through infertility treatments and an adoptive mom,all I can say is ….Good post!