Tips for first time fathersTips for first time fathers

I was talking to my husband the other day and asked him what he would tell a new father if he had the chance.  He wasn’t as upfront as I would have liked but he had some great suggestions that I will try to expand on them.

1. Get over the idea that you will not change diapers.  You will.  Be flexible about things around the house as well.  Do some of the cooking or cleaning.  Offer to babysit so that your wife can get out of the house.
2. Buy a good backpack.  You will always have to have something for your children to do.  Or a diaper to change.  He thinks that the people that make backpacks should make better ones for men to carry.  It is not all a woman’s job.
3. Do NOT talk to your child in that baby goo-goo sounds.  Talk like a normal person. 
4. Try to involve your parents in your child’s life.  Believe me that your children need as much support as possible.  And grandparents are the best. 
5. Understand that your wife will suddenly be pulled in fifty directions and all you can do is try to help.
6. Make your relationship with your wife a priority.  Set up babysitting services so that you can get out of the house.  Remember that your love is what keeps your family afloat.
7. Your baby will love to be held.  Get used to doing things with the baby on your hip.
8. Try to get everything you need done around the house before the baby comes.  Set up the baby’s room.  Do any kind of repairs that need to be done.
9. Realize that you are new at this.  You will make mistakes accept it.
10. Become more creative.  Learn new jokes and songs.  When you and your wife are down because you are so tired.  Do something to lighten the load.