Today my husband was finally diagnosed with diabetes. I knew that it was coming. He has all the signs. He is always thirsty and boy does he have the biggest sweet tooth I have ever seen. I go to the store and usually come home to him having made some kind of sweet…brownies,cakes,cookies,etc. He hides all the chocolate from the kids because he wants to eat it himself. Now I do hide some but its so that I don’t have to spend that much money on it. If I don’t,the kids won’t have anything for snack or lunches at school. He will eat them all. Last year at Halloween,I went through all the candy after trick or treating and put all the chocolate in a separate container in the fridge. You know,he ate almost all of it before we realized it. I made it easier for him to find it. I like cold chocolate so sue me. But I didn’t expect him to go eat it.
So here’s the thing….
My first husband died from diabetes. I know in my mind that he had it since he was born. I know that my husband’s diabetes is a mild case but it still set a irrational fear in my heart. My husband is 37 and my first husband died at 27. Crazy or not the feeling is valid. It is there. All day long I have thought of hardly anything else but what ifs…
Going to go get busy so I can try to do something else.
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My husband and father of my 3 children had Type I Diabetes and died at 35. He had it since he was 9 –never really took care of himself.
I have been remarried fro quite some time now and even added another child to the family.
2 years ago I was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes. I had seen it all and wasn’t going there. I told the Dr. I wasn’t keeping it. TONS of emotions and thoughts and crazy stuff I had to work thru. But,i lost 100 lbs and the diabetes. I don’t take meds and my last A1C was 4.8 –so,I’d say that’s pretty good proof it’s gone.
However,I don’t eat many carbs at all –but,they have decided that it’s more about carbs than sugar now –especially with Type II (adult on-set). Not that I eat alot of sugar –or much at all. I have sugar in my coffee and an alcoholic drink a few times a month and that is about it for me in the sugar department.
I know the fear and anxiety you are feeling and I get it! Totally! He can overcome this or at the least make it tons better –but,he has to want to.
If you need to talk –you have my email and I am more than willing to listen.
But,trust me,there is so much more they don’t know about Type II that they do about Type I diabetes,and everything is changing so fast,don’t assume you have current info anymore –I found out I didn’t at all. Even dietary things had changed so much.
Dian
I do not think your fear is the least bit irrational. What makes me sad is that your current hubby didn’t seem to think about that with his sweet tooth and constant thirst. I am hoping this is a wake up call for him to change his life and be there with you and his kids for a long long time to come
I don’t think this is an irrational fear at all. The trick is to not let the fear or anxiety overcome you. This is challenging,but definitely something your family can work on together. Maybe it’s an opportunity in disguise to have everyone commit to a different way of eating? I am sorry that you and your husband have to deal with this at all. Hang in there!