Girls and boys could not be farther apart in personality. I can look at Faith and she will start crying. If I look at my son, he just stares back at me like he’s thinking “whatever” which drives me nuts. Have you noticed that boys typically think in a straight path where a girl can go round and round? Jason will come to me and say, “Mommy, why do stars stay in the sky?” Faith will say something like “Because they are supposed to be there.”
Maybe it is just my kids. I don’t know. Jason has his disorder where Faith doesn’t. Sometimes I think she wishes she did. Faith has asked to be tested for ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder). She definitely is not hyper. But sometimes she gets that confused look or what I term the “far-away” look. I see it when she is playing basketball. It looks like she suddenly doesn’t know what she is supposed to be doing. Later I will find out that she forgot who she was supposed to be guarding because she says they change too much. Well it confuses me in the stands but I don’t know what the coach has told her.
For years, her teachers have complained that she daydreams but I didn’t want to do anything because she is a A-B student. It can’t be that bad. She does have reading comprehension problems so I took her to the doctor. I have a paper to fill out and so does her teacher. Its one of those sliding scale things… Never, Sometimes, Often, and Always.. Does anyone do things always that way? I started filling it out and realized that she does do most of the things on this list but she doesn’t do any of the hyper things. She does have rambling thoughts. She does jump from one subject to another. She does lose track of things. So maybe she does have ADD.
Until basketball came about Faith didn’t bring this up to me, she was scared. She doesn’t want to be like Jason. She was afraid that one thing leads to another. I had to talk to her about how Jason has a different father so his blood lines are different from hers as well as his earlier background which definitely rules out some of his conditions for her. I would never have known that she was worried about this until she wanted to do something better like basketball.
I know that all I can do is be supportive and try to explain things better as we go on.