Jason has been diagnosed autistic. The other day his therapist was doing Jason’s circles of trust.
In the first circle (core one), Jason listed me, my husband, Faith, Nana and our dogs. I thought it was interesting that if he included the dogs why not the cat. He told me that the cat was known for scratching him if he was being mean to it. He doesn’t trust the cat all the time. As a parent that makes sense to me.
The next circle surprised me a bit.. he listed cousins and 7 individual friends at school. He doesn’t know how to connect to people so that surprised me. I asked why he didn’t list his aunts and uncles. He said he didn’t know that well. He is closer to his cousins. Then we asked about his individual friends. He said they were classmates that he plays with at school. He doesn’t have to call or speak to them during the summer. I delved into his friendships. Did you always play with them? Only when we weren’t fighting. Did you want to call them during the summer? No. We have friends that we meet all the time. I asked why they weren’t included. He said that they were cousins. To him a cousin is someone who the family spends time with. I like his description of that. So our best friends are his family.
The next circle is his therapist, doctors, teachers, librarian and so on. His community people.
I’m glad that I am in Jason’s inner core because he’s an amazing little kid.