My son brought home a pink slip from school the other day. The pink slip in our school is kind of a behavior program. They have the following colors:
Dark Green –For children that pretty much are good all day. Also,means Goo Goo Goo
Light Green –For children that make act up once all day. Also,means…Keep on going
Red –For children that are acting up quite a bit. Also,means Stop look around switch your attitude back to Green
Yellow –For children that have acted up most of the day…Also,means Caution
Pink –For children that have really acted up all day…Also,means Report to the Principal.. This behavior includes fights,pushing,bullying,etc.
You can,also,work yourself back up the color scale. So if you start out with a pink by the end of the day if you have been good all day you might make it back to light green.
So you can imagine when he brought home a pink,I was not happy about it. I knew without a doubt that he had been bad the entire day. He didn’t try to bring himself back up.
He had talked back to the teacher. Pushed a child. Didn’t follow instructions. And the list goes on.
I asked him quietly,“What did you do?”
“Mommy,I was good. The other child pushed me.”
“How did he push you?”
“Mommy,I don’t know.”he responded. He was not looking me in the eye. Usually that means he’s fibbing.
“Ok,baby,let’s try to figure out how he did. Was he behind you?”
“No,mommy,he was in front of me.”he said.
“Well,how did he push you then?”
“Mom,he pushed me with his butt going backwards.”
Now what do I say? Do I tell him he’s lying to me? Do I believe him? Right now,I don’t think I do. He’s been getting into a lot of trouble in the last three months. He is now failing his school work and I am putting him in therapy. Remember,he came through foster care to me. I’m at a loss of what to do. I can’t get him into therapy until next Friday.
The principal called me that night. She explained the situation to me. No teacher saw the fight. It happened in the lunch room where I thought there was monitors but not in this moment. They caught my son with his fist drawn back to punch the kid. The other kid had grabbed his other hand and pulled it behind his back to stop him. Both children were hysterical.
Unfortunately,the golden rule in my house is no fighting at school. My son is grounded for a week. Usually I do the six minutes when you are bad because of his age but when it affects his future in this degree I do ground. Probably bad.
What would you do?












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